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DO NOT HOLD BACK

In as much as I believe God places people in our lives by himself, I also believe there is a place of intentionality and effort when it comes to making friends and sustaining friendships and any other type of relationship (even the one we have with our parents) How many friends would you still have if you did not stop communicating? How many relationships have you lost today because you both decided to wake up one morning and act as if no one existed. How many friendships have been lost because of the refusal to say “hi”, “How are you doing” “longtime” “Congratulations” etc. How many destiny relationships would we have had if we communicated how much we admired a person or a person's gift rather than been a silent fan? How many sisters would we have if we took out a few minutes from our day to know why a person looked unhappy or why they were crying and then encourage them? How many more acquaintances would we have if we did not stop saying hi or good morning because we felt

Politics and the Believer (??)

After speaking with two young girls this night about politics, the question that I have always had about how believers are meant to play (for lack of a better word) politics became more striking. I told these girls how some relationships are not worth loosing because of power, and how I don't ever see myself betraying a good friend or family member for the sake of being in authority. They told me that I was only been emotional, they said, and I quote “Politics is a dirty game, if you want to play it, think with your head not your heart. Even if you loose that person, you can always meet other people" These two very close friends (I mean, it is safe to call them besties) agreed to the idea of even betraying each other for the same course. But is that really how it is supposed to be? Would God be okay with us disrupting our friendships or any other type of relationships for the gain of power? Another thing that these girls said that really stood out for me was “Power is ev

GOSSIP AND THE CHURCH

Gossiping is not unusual in communities like the market, classroom, salon etc, simply because human beings are the unit of this communities. Something unfortunate happens to a person today and before you know it the whole community is talking about it up to the extent that the person with issue senses that "his or her matter don cast". But can we avoid gossiping in the church as much as possible. The church is supposed to be a safe place where people come to find spiritual healing. It is unfair that some people would cone with one challenge or the other and the same community of believers that are supposed to help them out would be the same one talking ill about them and destroying their reputation. If your motive is not to help or find solution then there is probably no need for you to share another person's buisness. Y ou might intentionally or unintentionally hear someone issue in your church, whatever the case is, try to keep it to yourself. If you cannot help them

REJECTION

Rejection is real, it is a deep thing that has eaten into the self esteem of a lot of folks. Although we have different personality types and I have to admit that some people are not moved by Rejection at all but they are some other people who little show of Rejection remains in them and builds up into something that can only be healed by serious therapy sessions of which unfortunately not everyone can afford. Rejection can show up when we get turned down buy our crush after we finally find the courage to ask them out. Fo r the ladies, it might come subtly when the guy you like overlooks you but you see him showing interest to someone else. Rejection can come when you have done every thing possible to fit in with someone/ a group but never felt like you belonged among them. It can come when you think you have finally found a friend that suddenly stops associating with you or a romantic partner who was no longer interested in a relationship with you. Rejection can come when you beli

Power of Affirmations

When we were little children, we were innocent and believed literally anything was possible. If someone told us that they could hold our hands and take us to London within three minutes, we would believe it. The advice given to many parents for their children is to "catch them young", which means they should make sure to teach or inculcate those values that would be helpful throughout life because at that period, c hildren have the tendency to believe things easily. G rowing up, things change because we start to encounter people like our friends, teachers and even the world at large that make us doubt a lot of things and our believe system is modified by outside voices. Some of them might have a very deep effect on us that they pierce our souls and become inner voices, constantly on repeat. The repercussion is that some of these voices might be negative. Example: "You are a dullard", may be your lesson teacher said it to you when you failed a math question. &qu

Appreciate your parent

I was watching a YouTube video and a man was asked what he regretted the most about been a parent and his response was " The fact that been a parent makes me recgonise that I am not whole and can't be everything that my children need", mind you his children are still little kids. This had me thinking of how I had been so annoyed with my parents for not doing things or behaving the exact way I believed a parent should behave and it made me sober. As a recovering perfectionist, I so metimes expect my parent to be perfect, have all the answers and know what to do at every point in time. But the reality is my parents make mistakes, and sometime's they act out of character. I n other words, they are not perfect. They did something's that I believed if I was in their shoes, I probably would have done better (easy to say), they have their fault, a lot, but that is not gong to change the fact that they are caring, would go to any length to make sure all their childr